Northeast Wisconsin
  • Northeast Wisconsin
  • January 2014
Written by  Judy Rogers, LCSW

A path less traveled to a happy new year

Welcome to the new year and the opportunity to look at your life with more awareness and less judgment. How is your life going? Are you happy? Is life showing up in a way you like? If your answer to these questions is yes, congratulations! If your answer is no, congratulations again, for you now have the opportunity to learn some new ways of being! I believe that, through a mindfulness practice, we are able to take an inward journey to a more authentic self that is the path to guaranteed success for living life with more love, passion and fulfillment.

The energy of the new year always brings with it that chance to start anew, to envision the life and year we would like to have. It’s the time of year for writing goals and making affirmations about eating healthier, spending more time with family or acquiring more success habits for work. Every year, I have the same goals: to lose weight, live healthier and grow my business. Suddenly, this year, I realize that I am not in that same rut. Through my work with mindfulness practices — and teaching others what I needed to learn — my life is very different. I can now answer yes to the three questions above!

Living life with more awareness and less judgment has created a big shift in my thinking and behaviors. I am no longer concerned about “having” and “doing.” I’m more focused on “being” and living more authentically. So what does that look like? Parker J. Palmer says it best, “Our deepest calling is to grow into our own authentic self-hood, whether or not it conforms to some image of who we ought to be. As we do so, we will not only find the joy that every human being seeks, we will also find our path of authentic service in the world.”

In his book, “Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation,” Palmer also says, “Before I can tell my life what I want to do with it, I must listen to my life telling me who I am.” This year, instead of setting goals and making affirmations, my focus is to awake to a more authentic self. Instead of asking myself if I am living the life that I want, I ask if I am living the life that wants to live through me. I answer the question, “Who am I?” When we are open to this way of being, through mindfulness practices, meditation and contemplations, we can’t help but live our lives aligned with the greater good.

How has my life changed this year? Suddenly, I have attracted people that know how to love. My business concepts have changed. Business co-creators have joined me at the Mindfulness Center for Wellbeing. As one of them said, “We are not building a business; we are building a community of people who are acting out of selflessness, integrity, cooperation, collaboration and love to give back all that we have received.”

Another change is that I am in a loving partnership for the first time in seven years. I find that being in a relationship is like deep-sea diving. It calls us deeper into our selves. Through a mindfulness practice, I was able to remove the barriers around my heart, and attend and befriend the fears that come up with deep self-diving. I believe God creates divine partners so we can see a reflection of our personality and life through another. Once we see it, we can allow love to guide us into a gentler, more compassionate self to share. We awaken to what the soul already knows: that there is a place within that can never be hurt, harmed or damaged, and we are able to have the courage to love deeper with a shared love that transforms each of us.

When we learn to be aware without judgment, we’re able to face our fears of vulnerability and no longer need to protect ourselves from each other. Being able to love my friends, co-creators and partner from an authentic, open and vulnerable heart allows me to answer yes to all three questions at the beginning of this article. Try this simple and difficult practice of living — aware and without judgment — a more authentic life, and this year, you, too, will answer yes to all three questions.


Judy Rogers, LCSW, is the founder and owner of Mindfulness Center for Wellbeing. They offer a variety of workshops, groups and psychotherapy that focus on mindfulness practices. Check out http://mindfulnesscenterforwellbeing.com or call 920-722-7245 for more details. You can also LIKE Mindfulness Center for Wellbeing on Facebook to follow what is happening at the center.

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